My good friend Chancelucky :-) suggests that I have an asian fetish that he's quite concerned about, thinking that I'm only visiting his blog in the hope that he has a sister or neice I might fancy.

I was thinking about that this morning, thinking about how interracial preferences are frowned upon by so many people, and yet intraracial preferences are ok. We're allowed - and even encouraged - to develop preferences for blondes, brunettes, redheads, etc, within our western culture. But it's disapproved of if we develop preferences for asian, indian, african, and so on.

I'm not saying that Chancelucky is a racist, as I know he was only joking, but it's fascinating to me how many people around us, who say they aren't racist, are against interracial relationships. I mean, if they're not racist, why do they frown on someone who prefers another race, or even is just more attracted to another race?

I admit I'm attracted to asian women, but I wouldn't call it a fetish. I'm attracted to any woman who is slim, dark skinned and dark-haired, with attractive physical features. The problem is, there really isn't a lot of western women who are slim. I look around me, and I see so many overweight white women, and in between them, slim and sexy asian women. What's a man to do? Should he disregard these slim and sexy women simply because they're asian? Doesn't that make him racist? I think you're a racist if you think you shouldn't be interested in a woman because she's of another race.

I was looking for a partner in life, someone who had various qualities that were important to me. My experience showed me that asian women had those qualities more than western women, and so they were naturally my preference for physical and emotional reasons. The woman that I've been looking for all my life turned out to be western. I think that means I don't have an asian fetish, otherwise I would have disregarded her in favour of some other asian woman. But that wasn't the case.

And so we return to my preferences of slim over fat, and sexy over ordinary. I feel it's those who consider themselves disadvantaged in some way that have a problem with it. Fat women have a problem with me preferring slim women. Ugly women have a problem with me preferring attractive women. Asian men have a problem with me preferring asian women.

You can't please everyone all the time. I don't try.

To all of those who have a problem (if you don't have a problem, this isn't addressed to you), I say - get over it. Stop being racist by disapproving of those who prefer other races.

In this multicultural, global society we live in, racist attitudes are outdated and only lead to increased conflict. There really should be no difference between a preference for blondes or brunettes, or a preference for asians or Swedish. :-)

I once asked a woman I was dating - she was western - what she would think if she saw a western man in his 30's walking hand in hand with a gorgeous asian woman. Her reply: 'he's obviously desperate and a disgusting control freak, and I feel sorry for the submissive asian girl who's stuck with him, hoping for a better life than where she came from'.

I was appalled at her answer, as I had thoguht she was more open minded than that (we stopped dating soon after), but it confirmed my suspicion that, like most western women, she had perceptions about asian women that were derogatory and racist. It was her opinion that any white man who was with an asian woman was ugly and therefore couldn't get a 'discerning' white woman. He was a control freak, taking advantage of the submissive asian woman. And the asian girl wasn't much better in her eyes, preferring to live a life of slavery to this ugly, desperate control freak, than to live in her own asian country.

I find it sad that so many white people say they are open minded, tolerant, intelligent and definitely not racist, and yet when it comes down to it, racism is alive and well. Their own racial superiority is more important to them than understanding that the planet may consist of separate races of humanity, but we're all ultimately the same. We're all human beings, and we're all men and women.

If white women looked after themselves more, then they'd be more attractive and wouldn't feel so threatened by those asian women who care about themselves, and are thus more attractive to men. They need to start changing their attitudes if they want men to be more interested in them.

(Note: my comments, as usual, are general. If you feel offended by any of my comments, which is certainly not intended, you need to look at why you are offended. Is it because you consider yourself to be one of those that I don't have a preference for? Or maybe you consider yourself to be one of those that I consider racist? Your feelings of being offended is more a sign of your own attitudes than it is about me having an opinion.)