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Thursday, July 13, 2006

10 tips to boost your confidence

If you think you could do with some confidence boosting, you might want to print this list out a few times and put them at various locations around the house, work, and in the car.  When you think you can do with a bit of a boost, have a read of the list and use it to put yourself back into a more confident mode.  Just before job interviews is a good time.

  1. Think about someone who is confident, and act like them.  Using someone as a model for your own behaviour is very helpful.  Pretending to be like someone who's confident isn't much different from being confident, and eventually it'll become second nature to you.  Instead of pretending to be like someone who is confident, you'll discover that you're confident too.

  2. The past is there for you to learn from.  Don't beat yourself up over things that have happened in your past.  They're gone, never to return.  What's done is done.  All you need to do is learn from it, use it to understand how you can do things differently in the future.

  3. Know your strengths and take advantage of them.  Know what you're good at and seek out opportunities to do more of them.  You'll have more confidence as you do more of what you're good at.

  4. Just say no!  There's nothing to be afraid of by saying no.  Say no to someone today.  It's not going to end their world, nor will it end yours.  Saying no sets boundaries, gives you space and freedom, and inspires confidence.

  5. Look at the 'can do' side of things instead of the 'can't do'.  You know you've done a lot in your life and achieved many successes.  Understand that you'll achieve a lot more successes in future.  Know that you can do it, just like you've done it before.

  6. Change how you think.  Do you let other people affect how you think?  Do you care what they think of you?  Remember that no one can make you feel a particular way.  How you feel about something is simply a choice you are making.  It's not what others say that causes you problems, it's what you say to yourself as a result of their words that creates the problems.  Say different things.  Stop caring what others think.  Change how you think about things, so that you're less affected by the ignorance of others.

  7. Be grateful for what you have in your life.  Be grateful for having someone you can love, or who loves you.  Be grateful for those who help you, or who appreciate the help you give them.

  8. Work on improving your body language.  How you move your body has a great impact on your confidence.  Walk with your head ups, shoulders back and as if you have somewhere very important to go.  When people look at you they'll know you are walking with purpose, you have somewhere you need to be. 

  9. Be proud of what you have achieved, and let others know about it.  Yes, that's right.  Talk about yourself more than what you currently do.  Express to others your successes and achievement.  You'll feel more confident as a result.

  10. Is what you're worried about really that important?  Ask yourself this: in 5, 10 or 20 years time, will today's worries matter to my life?  Remember 5 years ago, what were you worried about then?  Does it matter today?  No, it doesn't.  What worries you today will be gone soon.  Keep it in perspective, and remember that your future is up to you. 

  11. BONUS TIP - make wise choices.  Who you are today is a result of what you've done over the past 5
    years.  Who you will become 5 years from now will be a result of the choices you make today. 
    Choose wisely.

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Blogger Parag said...

You'll excel much more quickly if you build on your strengths- those character traits that come naturally to you. Know your strengths and find ways to use them more often.
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