The funny thing about our mind and our life is that we spend so much energy thinking about and talking about the things we don't like. As a result, all that's on our mind is what we don't like, and what we don't want.

The universe always gives us what is most on our mind, so if all you think about is what you don't want, then that's all you're going to continue getting.

You need to think of what you DO want. You need to FEEL what you want. You need to imagine and feel the experiences of HAVING what you want. When that's all that's on your mind, that's all you'll be getting.

That is the secret to a rewarding life.

If you want a fulfilling relationship, you have to have that relationship in your mind. You have to see the pleasurable experiences in your imagination, and you need to feel those experiences as well. It's very important that you feel it as well as see it in your mind. It's only when you have a grasp of the visualising and the feelings, that you'll begin to have it in your life.

I can't emphasise this enough. It actually works.

When you think about it, you already know it works. You already make it work for you, but you're making it work against you rather than for you.

Let's look at the concept of being single. Most single people want so much to NOT be single. They want so much to not be single that they think they're doing everything they can to bring a wonderful partner into their lives. But in reality, the only reason they're looking is because they don't want to be lonely. They want to find someone to share their life with because they have no one to share it with.

All that's on the mind of most single people is how lonely they are. They're often telling themselves they'll never find anyone like 'so and so', or that they'll never find anyone worthwhile, or that all men suck, or all women suck, or that they're not worthy of finding someone nice, or yadda yadda yadda...

You know what goes on in a single person's mind if you've been single. It's usually negative. It's usually about what you don't have, and why you don't have it.

When all that's on your mind is what you don't have, or what you're unhappy about, or what you want to change, then those are the strongest thoughts in your consciousness. Whatever is on your mind is what becomes real for you in your life.

If you don't believe the universe follows a 'law of attraction', and you instead believe that reality is based on your actions in this world, then think about this. Your actions are based on your thoughts coming first. You think it, then you act it. If your thoughts are mostly about what you lack, then your actions are going to allow the lack to continue.

If your thoughts are instead mostly about what you want, then your actions are going to lead you in the direction of getting what you want.

Have a look at these two thought processes, and decide for yourself which one will end up with you achieving more in your life.

Thought 1

I hate my job so much. It sucks. All they get me to do is this boring crap that has no meaning. I can't wait until I go home. I wish I had another job. This mind-numbing, tedious work is so soul destroying. I'm sick of it. I need to do something different. But if I leave this job, I don't know if I'll get what I want. 'Better the devil you know,' as they say. At least I know this devil. If I leave, I could be out of work for a long time, unable to find a good job. At least this pays the bills. And there's always the chance that something better will come alone. Man, I so hate this job. I can't wait until I go home, and then I can forget about it... Oh great, they've given me more crap work to do. I wish they'd rot in hell. And this work can rot in hell with them. I hate my life. This sucks. Great, another 4 hours and 26 minutes before I can go home...

Thought 2

I'm not being challenged by this job. It's not utilising my skills as much as I'd like. Which skills would I like to utilise more? Well, I know I have a passion about understanding people more, and helping develop better relationships. So how can I change my role from a technical role to a relationship management role? Well, if I offer to help improve relationships between my company and the clients they service, that could work. And I'll let my manager know I'm more interested in relationship management than the technical stuff I'm doing. I love helping improve the service and relationships, it's so fulfilling! Oh wow, look at that, they're giving me the opportunity to work more with client relationship management. Hey, where did that come from? I've just been invited to join a services improvement team, which is going to let me do more of that. Oh, and they want me to do some relationship management courses! Wow, this is just fantastic.

What you give out to the universe is what the universe will give back to you, whether it's your thoughts leading your actions (or lack of action), or whether it's the energy of the universe reflecting to you what you're giving out.

If you put out that you hate something, and yet that's all you can see, then that's all the universe will give you. Because that's all it sees for you as well. It goes only on what's in your mind, and your feelings.

But if you put out that you want to improve something, and you can see the things you want to improve and how you can improve them, and you can feel the emotions of doing those things that you want to do, then that's all the universe will see for you. And that's what it will give you.

This is the secret to a rewarding life.

'Thought 2' (above) is based on my own personal experience of what happened to me during the past 6 months. I know it works, because it works for me. It can work for you too. Just let the universe act on the thoughts in your head. Choose the right thoughts.