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Saturday, June 24, 2006

The secret to a rewarding life

The funny thing about our mind and our life is that we spend so much energy thinking about and talking about the things we don't like. As a result, all that's on our mind is what we don't like, and what we don't want.

The universe always gives us what is most on our mind, so if all you think about is what you don't want, then that's all you're going to continue getting.

You need to think of what you DO want. You need to FEEL what you want. You need to imagine and feel the experiences of HAVING what you want. When that's all that's on your mind, that's all you'll be getting.

That is the secret to a rewarding life.

If you want a fulfilling relationship, you have to have that relationship in your mind. You have to see the pleasurable experiences in your imagination, and you need to feel those experiences as well. It's very important that you feel it as well as see it in your mind. It's only when you have a grasp of the visualising and the feelings, that you'll begin to have it in your life.

I can't emphasise this enough. It actually works.

When you think about it, you already know it works. You already make it work for you, but you're making it work against you rather than for you.

Let's look at the concept of being single. Most single people want so much to NOT be single. They want so much to not be single that they think they're doing everything they can to bring a wonderful partner into their lives. But in reality, the only reason they're looking is because they don't want to be lonely. They want to find someone to share their life with because they have no one to share it with.

All that's on the mind of most single people is how lonely they are. They're often telling themselves they'll never find anyone like 'so and so', or that they'll never find anyone worthwhile, or that all men suck, or all women suck, or that they're not worthy of finding someone nice, or yadda yadda yadda...

You know what goes on in a single person's mind if you've been single. It's usually negative. It's usually about what you don't have, and why you don't have it.

When all that's on your mind is what you don't have, or what you're unhappy about, or what you want to change, then those are the strongest thoughts in your consciousness. Whatever is on your mind is what becomes real for you in your life.

If you don't believe the universe follows a 'law of attraction', and you instead believe that reality is based on your actions in this world, then think about this. Your actions are based on your thoughts coming first. You think it, then you act it. If your thoughts are mostly about what you lack, then your actions are going to allow the lack to continue.

If your thoughts are instead mostly about what you want, then your actions are going to lead you in the direction of getting what you want.

Have a look at these two thought processes, and decide for yourself which one will end up with you achieving more in your life.

Thought 1
I hate my job so much. It sucks. All they get me to do is this boring crap that has no meaning. I can't wait until I go home. I wish I had another job. This mind-numbing, tedious work is so soul destroying. I'm sick of it. I need to do something different. But if I leave this job, I don't know if I'll get what I want. 'Better the devil you know,' as they say. At least I know this devil. If I leave, I could be out of work for a long time, unable to find a good job. At least this pays the bills. And there's always the chance that something better will come alone. Man, I so hate this job. I can't wait until I go home, and then I can forget about it... Oh great, they've given me more crap work to do. I wish they'd rot in hell. And this work can rot in hell with them. I hate my life. This sucks. Great, another 4 hours and 26 minutes before I can go home...
Thought 2
I'm not being challenged by this job. It's not utilising my skills as much as I'd like. Which skills would I like to utilise more? Well, I know I have a passion about understanding people more, and helping develop better relationships. So how can I change my role from a technical role to a relationship management role? Well, if I offer to help improve relationships between my company and the clients they service, that could work. And I'll let my manager know I'm more interested in relationship management than the technical stuff I'm doing. I love helping improve the service and relationships, it's so fulfilling! Oh wow, look at that, they're giving me the opportunity to work more with client relationship management. Hey, where did that come from? I've just been invited to join a services improvement team, which is going to let me do more of that. Oh, and they want me to do some relationship management courses! Wow, this is just fantastic.
What you give out to the universe is what the universe will give back to you, whether it's your thoughts leading your actions (or lack of action), or whether it's the energy of the universe reflecting to you what you're giving out.

If you put out that you hate something, and yet that's all you can see, then that's all the universe will give you. Because that's all it sees for you as well. It goes only on what's in your mind, and your feelings.

But if you put out that you want to improve something, and you can see the things you want to improve and how you can improve them, and you can feel the emotions of doing those things that you want to do, then that's all the universe will see for you. And that's what it will give you.

This is the secret to a rewarding life.

'Thought 2' (above) is based on my own personal experience of what happened to me during the past 6 months. I know it works, because it works for me. It can work for you too. Just let the universe act on the thoughts in your head. Choose the right thoughts.

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Blogger Alan said...

This is really interesting, how does one start? when did you realized it was working for you?

6/24/2006 01:28:00 PM  
Blogger Alan Howard said...

Hi Alan, thanks for commenting.

One starts the process simply by taking some time each day to sit down and imagine the things you want. If it's a new house, imagine walking through it, touching the walls, sitting in the couch, climbing the stairs, cooking in the kitchen. Imagine the feelings of joy you would get as you do these things in your new house. Do this exercise every day. Write down a description of the house, or put a photo of it on your wall. Visualise it, feel it, and let it come into your life however it wants to.

The same with a new car, if that's what you want. Imagine yourself driving it, feeling the leather of the steering wheel in your hands, the cloth of the seats you're sitting on, the feeling of exhileration you get as you drive it.

It's all based on visualisation and letting yourself feel the experience of what you're visualising.

There's no limit to this, you can do it with whatever you want. House, car, relationships, work, money and the things you can get with that money, etc etc.

Visualise it, feel it, then let it come into your life.

It's important that you just let it come into your life however it wants to. Don't try to define HOW it's going to appear, just accept that it WILL.

6/24/2006 03:12:00 PM  
Blogger thundercloud said...

I think one adage to consider here is: Careful what you wish for. Mind you, that shouldn't put you off but the better the idea; the clearer the vision, the better the result.
Also take into account what it took to get you here in the first place. Decisions that appeared to go awry often lead us places we need to be. All in all, a terrific article about the power of thought in our day to day lives.

6/26/2006 08:08:00 PM  
Anonymous Alex said...

I’d just like to say that this is a very useful exercise, even if one does not believe (as I don’t) that the universe has any kind of ability to respond to your desires. A lot of people vaguely want things, but they have very little real conception about what it is they want. The first stage to getting anything is understanding what that thing is. Once you have a clear conception of it, the way to attain it is usually obvious, and you’ll find you’ll already have laid the groundwork.

Just my two pence.

6/26/2006 10:14:00 PM  
Blogger Alan Howard said...

Thanks Alex. You're right. You don't need to believe the universe is responding in order to make it all work for you. It's simply about the fact that our desires lead our actions, and what we desire is usually what we receive.

Most people don't realise that the same energy that's used for positive desires is also used for negative desires. Whether we desire happiness or sadness, it's all in how much we focus on it.

Being negative takes more energy than being positive. If people only put half of their negative energy into positive thoughts, their life would change very drastically.

Great to have your input, Alex, even if it's two pence worth. :-)

6/26/2006 10:25:00 PM  
Blogger passion said...

Yes, yes and yes! It is my pleasure Alan to see that you are writing more and more positive things about your life which is obviously not only good for yourself but also uplifting and inspiring for the readers. I think that’s what sharing is about – drawing wisdom, energy, strength and positive thoughts from each other and grow together.

I have not deliberately testing as to how positive thoughts can lead to positive outcome. However I am so sure that ever since I made a commitment to myself to direct my energy to positive things and people in life, my life has become so much fulfilling and prosperous in terms of relationship, career, family, health and other aspects. To me it just feels right to appreciate things in life instead of focusing on negative things in the world. At times when I do see negative things in people and life and allow myself to dwell on them and get angry and frustrated, I know I am ill (temporarily) and I know it's all self-imposed. I can’t reiterate enough the importance of always purifying our thoughts on a daily basis and making it a habit. The purer our thoughts are, the purer the world is in our eyes.

Thanks for sharing this article with us Alan. Hope all is well with you and Deirdre.

6/27/2006 09:15:00 AM  
Blogger Alan Howard said...

hi Passion, thanks for your comments. Everything's going very nicely with Deidre and I, thank you. You can read more about our wedding plans on the wedding blog, which has updates on our progress. (I'm pointing this out 'cause if things weren't that good, then our wedding plans would very likely not be progressing...)


6/27/2006 03:09:00 PM  

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